this song has tormented me for months and i think i’m finally ready to talk about it.
this is the final song off of Now You are One of Us by the paper chase. side note: john congleton is a mad evil musical genius. the song builds and builds with tension and when it reaches its final moments it becomes hard to swallow, much less digest. those final lines,
"i love you. do you love me? let’s set our hair on fire. let’s twist our bodies down over coals. let’s give them something they can’t ignore. i love you. do you love me? let’s set our house on fire. let’s cast a mirror right back at fear. let’s show this world, we were here."
are just haunting to me. i’ve been trying to understand exactly what they mean and how they relate to me, personally. and i think i’ve finally done it. we don’t have to be confined to our houses. our safe sanctuaries where everything is the same and nothing changes. we don’t have to be consumed in fear. the future, opportunity, everything outside of our individual ‘safe zones’ is out there and it’s for the better. we will never leave our mark if all we do is be consumed by this house. we need to escape the house, overcome the fears, and let the world know who we are.
i seem to remember one night after having a very rough talk with someone, driving home listening to this song. i got to that end part and the song suddenly clicked with me and i realized i was wasting my life. coming to such a harsh realization and knowing i wanted to change it resulted in many changes in my life to follow. the very next day i cut my shaggy-ass stoner hair to its now uniform shortness, reorganized my room, and left the house for the day to drive around and think. whatever is out there for me in the future, i’m sure it will consume me in ways that i will be happy with, unlike this house did.
Dude, you do realize this ad is Italian right? Those people are Italian, because it’s an Italian ad. Italian people are typically white. This ad is suppose to be about acceptance in THEIR country, why would they have models that don’t look like they’re from their country?
I’m gettin’ real tired of tumblr’s attitude. I’m probably going to get a lot of hate for this, but here we go.
Not everywhere is as mixed as North America. You go to places like Japan and it would be really weird to see a white person in their ad, it’s no different for places like Italy and Germany where people are mostly white. In North American we seem to have a decently even mix in a lot of areas so it’s a little off-putting when there’s only a certain race -generally all white people- depicted, where it’s completely normal and would appear really strange otherwise for other countries. Like you wouldn’t go to China and demand they show white people in their ads there, so why would you do the same for a country that has very few PoC compared to it’s population?
As the person above me said, why would they have models that don’t look like they’re from their country in their ads?
Seriously, I am Italian, and FUCK YOU. Our country has huge problems with homophobia, there isn’t even one single law to protect homosexuals. Most European countries have legalized marriage and adoption (or at least talked about it), but not Italy. The Catholic community does everything they can to block the law against homophobia. Last month, a 14 years-old killed himself because he was gay. You have no idea how much that kind of thing matters in Italy, all you can fucking do is whine about Tumblr about the fact that they are all white. Yes, in Italy the majority of the population is indeed white. Not the rest of the world is like fucking North America. So before you come whining about it on Tumblr, get your facts right.
I love it when reality slaps the fuck out of Tumblr.
Does your brand of feminism remove barriers for women, or simply move them around? Does is expand options for women, or does it just shift them? You don’t liberate women by forcing them to choose option B instead of option A. What is comfortable for you might not be comfortable for someone else, and it’s entirely possible that what you see as oppressive, other women find comfortable or even downright liberating.
Before you think the girl in the middle is a strawman, let me tell you I used to be her, back in my misguided youth. I considered myself the standard to which other people should adhere. But that was stupid. It’s not up to me to tell people how to dress, and it’s much nicer to let everyone choose for themselves.
Some women would feel naked without a veil. Some women would find it restrictive. Some women would feel restricted by a bra. Some women would feel naked without one. Some women would feel restricted by a tight corset. Others love them. Some wear lots of clothes with a corset. Some only wear the corset and nothing else. What makes any article of clothing oppressive is someone forcing you to wear it. And it’s just as oppressive to force someone not to wear something that they want to wear.
As a loud-and-proud art nude, glamour and fetish model living in a Muslim country…
I approve this post :)
Respect every woman’s choice with her body.
Whether she wants to get stark naked or cover it up, she should decide what she feels comfortable in.
"Feminists"like this strawman one is why I like to refrain from labeling myself with the term.
This post is wonderful and exactly what i believe :)
A tip of the hat (and a twirl of the tassle) to comedian Nadia Kamil for this piece of live comedic joy: a feminist burlesque act. It all kicks off around 1 min 45 seconds - but make sure you watch Kamil’s introduction to the routine, too.
THIS IS FAR FROM THE FIRST “FEMINIST” BURLESQUE ROUTINE!
If I’d seen this without the introduction, and just seen the act, I probably would have liked it. But the introduction is just… grrrrr! She takes so much time to put down burlesque and burlesque dancers and the whole industry before she does this, making sure to set up how she isn’t like us, calling burlesque “gross” before her routine. Yes, putting down other women to uplift yourself. Feminist indeed.
The act itself would have been quite funny, and solidly feminist, taking down patriarchal concepts in a humorous way, and it’s actually pretty close to some actual burlesque acts I’ve seen. Because burlesque very often tackles feminism! We have a gigantic toolbox of ways to subvert the male gaze (but also hello have you seen a burlesque audience? Always at least half female!) While some burlesque might be purely for titillation (and what’s so wrong with that?), I’ve seen far more burlesque that is political, satirical, subversive, radical, and funny, more so than this act.
It’s so frustrating that I’m seeing this passed all over the internet like she’s done us all a favor. This comedian isn’t special, she isn’t revolutionary. She’s just another person who saw one burlesque show, decided she didn’t like it, yet also decided she knew all about it, and had to put us in our place.
Reblogging for Florence of A-Labia’s commentary. I thought about sharing this performance because it’s pretty clever, but it’s doing the burly-q community a disservice with her comments. Feminism shouldn’t be promoting girl hate! Instead I’d rather share acts like Roxie Moxie’s "Binders of Women" and Chicava Honeychild’s "Jezebel" (this video is only a preview; check out some of her commentary).
Reblogging for Florence of A-Labia’s commentary too!
Test your corset knowledge! I just learned how to make quizzes for my website, so be prepared for new corset quizzes in the near future. Here’s my first one - do you know the names and functions of all the parts of a corset?
Feedback would be much appreciated. ^^
9/10 Corset Master! The only thing I got wrong was one of 4 types of bones used in the past.